The one thing high achievers all have in common

The one thing all high achievers say to me:

“IF I DON’T KEEP GOING EVERYTHING WILL FALL APART”

And they truly believe it.

I know, because I believed it too.

For a long time, I was convinced I was the one holding everything together. If I finished work 30 minutes earlier. If I didn’t finalise that last slide late at night. If I didn't include that extra calculation, do one more check, everything would fall apart.

• Managers would be frustrated.

• Clients would be disappointed.

• Colleagues would be let down.

And in some ways, it felt true.

Because I had created a system where it seemed true.

My 120% effort made me look indispensable. I became the safe pair of hands. The one who executed everything to the highest standard. The one who checked and triple-checked my work (and often everyone else’s too).

I was always thinking three steps ahead.
- What could go wrong?
- How do I prevent it?
- What’s the backup plan?

My mind was constantly spinning with scenarios, risks, contingencies, solutions.

But here’s the part I couldn’t see at the time:

That system wasn’t imposed on me.

I built it - unconsciously - around a belief.

The belief that I had to try that hard to be successful.
That effort equalled worth.
That if I relaxed even slightly, everything would collapse and people would be let down.

I genuinely believed my 120% was the minimum required to keep things running.

It wasn’t reality.
It was conditioning.

Conditioning shaped much earlier in life, where recognition and emotional safety was lacking. Somewhere along the way, my nervous system learned that vigilance, effort, and over-responsibility were how you stayed ahead.

It was only when I stepped back that I could see how much I was living in overdrive.

When I looked around, most of my colleagues weren’t operating like this. They were still getting pay rises and promotions. They were still respected and successful.

They just weren’t burning themselves into the ground to get there.

They were doing it the smart way.

And now, I recognise my old self in almost every high achiever who comes to me.

The analytical mind.
The obsession with detail.
The need to know exactly what’s included, covered, accounted for.

When someone works with me, we shine a light on the behaviours driving the headaches, the on-edge feeling, the spiraling thoughts. I can see the blind spots in what they’ve already tried, and why it hasn’t worked so far.

By the time people reach out, they’re exhausted.
Exhausted from holding it all together.

What they want - often without saying it - is for someone else to hold them for a change.

That’s what I do.

My mentorship reflects back what you can’t yet see.

I teach you how to reprogramme your nervous system and retrain the brain patterns that keep you stuck in overdrive. We interrupt the behaviours driving your symptoms and build regulation first, so clarity, focus, and sustainable performance can follow.

If your brain is always switched on.
If you feel frazzled and don’t know how to truly relax anymore.
If you know something has to change, but you don’t know how to slow down safely.

Then this is your invitation.

You don’t have to hold it all together alone anymore.